Self Image

Ask ten girls what they think about wearing large hoop earrings and you will probably get ten answers! Many will say, "It's just not me", and yet time and time again, Hoops become the rage. Wearing any accessory, or even the lack of wearing any accessories at all, makes a statement about you. As this site is about earrings, this will be our focus. Here are three hypothetical girls: 

• Girl A   Has a single piercing in each ear and wears small, almost invisible earrings.
  
• Girl B   Has two piercings in each ear and wears small hoops or medium dangles. 
  
• Girl C    Has multiple piercings in each ear and/or wears large hoops or long dangles.

What is our first impression when we see these girls?  Ask ten guys and your answers will not vary that much!  Girl A is probably quite shy, does not want to bring attention to herself. Is probably very practical, but is most likely very boring in bed. Girl B is more adventurous, a little more outspoken, likes to be seen, and is probably quite exciting to be with. Girl C is bold and outspoken, is proud of her sexuality and not afraid to project it, and is probably wild in bed!   

Truth be known, girl a, b, and c, may all be the same girl but in different moods!  This however, is how changing earrings can project your inner self. It is not overlooked by the movie media either. The sweet girl is always found with small button earrings, while the sex starved maniac is wearing the huge hoops! 

Throughout the ages, large hoop earrings have always been a symbol of sexual power. Sometimes in a mocking way, other times in a direct and to the point manner.

Pierced, or clip-ons? 

Although the focus of this site is not on piercing, there is no way to get around part of it. In the world of hoops and dangles, real earrings are pierced. There is something very sexual about the fact that an earring is the one piece of jewelry that travels through you as opposed to being only worn on the surface. Clip-on earrings come off as being a cop-out, worn by people who are afraid to go through the right of passage known as ear piercing. For some, their entire body becomes a pincushion. Since there are many sites on the net that delve into the depths of piercing, we won't, so around here, we stop at the ear! 

How does wearing hoops effect the self image of the wearer?

What happens when the shy, quiet girl thinks about putting on a big pair of hoops?  First, there is a level of resistance. She may think, "I don't want to tear my ears out!" This is an excuse of course, as well designed hoops are quite safe, and may even be safer then other smaller earrings. The next excuse will probably be "Only sluts wear big earrings." This may be a thought handed down from their mother, who may have at some point lost her love interest to another girl in big hoops. Looking sexy and being a slut are two very different thing!  So what is the real reason for the resistance? Often, it is a desire NOT to be noticed. The fear of having to deal with a compliment or what to do if someone pays attention to you!

Your first time with big hoops!

Some of the most interesting feedback I have received has come from women I know who tell me about how they feel wearing large hoops!  

One girl related that when she puts on hoops, it changes her whole persona. In hoops she feels free to say things and act in a different way then when she has conventional earrings on.

Another girl I know has made it as far as buying a pair of hoops, wearing them for fun when no one is home, but hides them from sight when anyone else is around!

Yet another girl thought that it would be a great excuse for acting differently, "It wasn't me...it was my hoops!"

Do you have a story about how hoops makes you feel?   
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