In,
Not On (Part
1) Preface Chapter 1. The first event that led to my awareness of the excitement I have about wearing hoops in my ears came at a dinner party my husband Ken and I had at our house one evening. Our friends Erica and Andy were our guests that night, and as usual, Ken was spending much of the early part of the evening, before dinner, seemingly deep in conversation with Erica, and apparently fascinated by her. I had noticed his focus on her before on other occasions, feeling jealous on some occasions, but mostly deciding that her work as a hair salon owner, and his as a business consultant meant that they had business-related subjects of mutual interest. Erica had always been a stylish dresser, carefully groomed, with a slim
figure. As she became more self-assured with the success of her salon,
she ventured into what some would call the more trendy aspects of fashion,
helped in part by her business of staying in touch with fashion
trends. Tonight was no exception to her adventurous nature; the
previous time we saw her, for example, Erica's hair She was wearing a white silk long-sleeved blouse with the collar up, and
tied in a knot to show off her slim waist. She was wearing black Capri
pants, black stiletto heels, and not one but two silver ankle bracelets, one
on each ankle, clearly visible below the Capri pants and above the
stilettos. True to form, however, she wore in each ear a 3"
thicker, ornate silver hoop of the sort worn in India. As her hair was so
short that each ear was entirely exposed, her earrings were prominently
visible. I said hi to her and Andy quickly, but apologized as I
returned to the kitchen to finish preparing the dinner. But, as "So Erica", said Ken, "what made you cut and color your hair in this style?" "Well, Ken", she said, "I was at a hair show in Chicago last week, and I saw a woman with this hairstyle and color who looked absolutely great. So, I just decided to do it. It's so great to be able to just wash it and dry it in a few minutes, and I really like the way it lets me show off my earrings. Like I was telling you earlier tonight, it's been really interesting, sexy even, to feel my earrings swing freely in my lobes without my hair getting in the way. And without all the hair in the way, it finally made much more sense for me to have my ear pierced again, as I have wanted to do for a year or two now." I was puzzled, in part because I was not in the room when this was discussed before dinner, and in part because as I looked at Erica, I saw only one hoop earring in a pierce in her left lobe. "Erica" I said, "I guess I'm a little confused, because I only see one earring in your ear." Erica turned her head, left, to face me directly, and said "Oh, I thought you had seen this!" She turned her head more to the left, so that her right ear was fully visible to me, and pointing to her ear lobe first, she said "Well, I have always wanted to be able to wear two earrings in my right ear, so I had this lobe pierced a second time." See?" she said, putting one of her long red fingernails near her lobe, "In Chicago, at the hairshow, I had a pierced stud put in my lobe just above the pierce where I wear my hoop. I just love the double-pierced look, don’t you Barbara? I can hardly wait until it's healed so I can wear a small second hoop in this ear." She shook her head gently, and said "I just love the way hoop earrings feel in my ears, especially when they're dangling like this. Don’t you too Barbara? It will feel so interesting to have two rings in this ear." She got up to go to the powder room, and was quite a site to behold, strutting off down the hall on her stilettos, hoops dangling from her ears, and a charm on each of her ankle bracelets tinkling with every step. Ken could not keep his eyes off of her. We chatted a bit about something or other while she was gone, but when she returned and sat at the table, she said "Oh, and look what else I had done while I was in Chicago!" She raised her right hand, and spread her fingers in front of us.
Her nails were perfect, really, red, and moderately long, as you might
expect for a salon owner with access to the best in manicuring. Near
the tip of her fingernail on her pinky finger, plain as day, was a tiny
silver ring dangling from a tiny hole "It's the latest, really," she said "Nail charms are all the rage now, and the best way to wear them is to have your nail pierced, like this. I just love the way it dangles from my hand when I am writing, or talking on the phone. My salon is all geared up to do nail piercing now, and we have all kinds of nail charms. They're so much fun!" Then Andy spoke up "We're going to have to watch out for Erica, don't you think? Rings in her ears, a ring in her fingernail, tinkling ankle bracelets, quite the little gypsy all in all. The next time she goes to Chicago for one of these hair shows, I wouldn’t be surprised if she comes back with a ring in her nose!" We all laughed, but then Erica got a mock-serious look on her face, and said "Actually, I have thought about that already. That woman I saw in Chicago with this hairstyle wore a tiny gold hoop through her nostril. I thought it looked really cute." Then she turned directly to Ken, got close to his face, held up her pinky
finger with the nail that had the ring in it, let the tiny ring settle
directly on her right nostril, saying "What do you think,
Ken? Wouldn’t this look pretty? How do you think I would look
with a ring in my nose? I could wear it like this, in Then, she moved her ringed pinky nail to just in front of her septum, holding it there, and dangling the ring a bit, saying "Or I could wear it like this, in my septum, like another woman I saw at the hairshow in Chicago. What would you think, Andy, if your wife came home from her salon - or the hairshow - with a ring in her nostril or her septum to match her hoop earrings?" Erica then laughed, and said, "Actually, I did see several other women at the hairshow wearing tiny nostril rings, and I was so intrigued by this that I bought a clip-on one at the show. I wore it the day I had my haircut, and just about shocked one of my hairdressers who thought I had pierced my nostril. But, I'm not ready for that just yet." Andy said "Erica, you're kidding! Please don’t tell me you were wearing a nose ring there!" Letting the serious look come over her face again, Erica said "Of course I did, Andy. How else could I make people believe that my nose is pierced?" Sternly, Andy said " I hope you're not going to start wearing a ring in your nose too here in town." He was serious. Erica laughed, and said "Well, not just yet, at least not at home - the clip-on is at work in my drawer." Ken's eyes were hugely wide by now, and he said "Actually, Erica, I think that's a great look, either style would be a great look on you, and I really like your new double ear pierce. It will look terrific with a second ring, once it's healed. Barbara, maybe you should try that sometime, as a way to spice up your look." I just had to speak up now, as I was fingering the small gold studs that
were fixtures, at the time, in my singly pierced lobes. I was jealous
of Ken's focus on Erica, yet, for the first time, I realized that Ken might
have a thing for earrings, and maybe even nose rings, instead of just for
Erica, which could I was lying, of course, but wanted to test my theory about how I might attract his attention. "Barbara, you're kidding" he said. "You only have one hole in each ear, and you never wear hoops." Aha, I thought, maybe I'm right. He has bought me about 10 pair of hoop earrings in the 6 years we have been married, I rarely wear them, and he's quite quick to point out that I only have one pierce in each ear and that I never wear the earrings he buys. "Oh no, Ken, not pierced earrings. " I said, "but I did enjoy wearing them even though they were clip-ons. Who knows, maybe I'll go visit Erica at her salon and see if I can get a cut and color that will show off my ears, and make hoops more appropriate for my look." And, as I fingered my single ear studs, I began to recall the few times when I had worn hoops in my ears. I remember having felt a bit like a gypsy as the rings swayed in my ears while walking, or when turning my head, and feeling a bit more interesting, or even sexy, than the old, conventional, ear-stud-wearing Barbara. Ken's eyes widened slightly, and as he focused on me he said, somewhat sarcastically "Really? I think that might be a great thing for you to try. You have all of those hoops I've bought you, just sitting in your jewelry box waiting for you to try." Then he turned once again to Erica, and basically spent the rest of the evening focused on her, and her damned earrings, and the nose ring story. I'll admit it. I was jealous of Erica. But, I thought, I think I know your weakness, and I'll give Erica a run for her money. Just wait for what I have in store for you. Chapter 2. That night, in recalling many of our previous conversations, and the
events of that evening, it had become clear to me that Ken found hoop
earrings sexy, andwas especially excited by the fact that my ears were
pierced. I had never really given it much thought; I liked wearing
earrings, and had found it I was intrigued by my new awareness of his interest in hoops. Mostly to attract his interest, over the next few months I found it fun to wear the larger silver or gold hoops that he found attractive, even though I did not have my hair cut as we had discussed that one evening with Erica and Andy. Wearing hoops certainly did wonders for our relationship. I noticed that he was especially attentive whenever I wore my hoops, and especially if I was wearing high heels, and pants. One afternoon at lunch, after a few drinks, he pointed out that Erica had one ear double pierced, and now always wore two hoops in that ear. He also mentioned that my friend Kay had two holes in each of her ear lobes, and that he had seen women wearing three pierced earrings in their lobes. I could see this was his way of trying to get me interested in having my ears pierced again, as I only had one hole pierced in each lobe. So, I said "Ken do you think I would look good with another hole in one of my ears"? "Oh yes, I think that’s a very sexy look", he responded, "Would you ever consider having that done?" I said "Well, I’ll think about it." Actually, I had in fact thought about it, but never got around to doing anything about it. But, just to tease him a little, and as I was fingering the large silver hoops in my ears, I said "Well, I would think it would be kind of sexy to be able to wear two earrings in one of my ears." I laughed, and said " Gee Ken, did you ever think your wife would be getting into body piercing?" He laughed too, in a nervous sort of way, and then I said "Just for
fun, sometime, maybe when you are out of town, maybe I’ll go have one of
my ears pierced again. You know, I will only be able to wear a stud in
the hole for a while, until it heals." Then he said "That’s
ok, but would you actually wear two hoops in your ear sometime? I
think that would be very sexy." I said "Maybe, I’ll
see", knowing full well that I would when I wanted a little attention
from him. I had actually discussed this with my friend
Kay. She had both noticed that Ken’s eyes would focus on her double
pierced ears, and that he I thought to myself "This is just like the night with Andy and Erica. You know, he does like nose rings too" A sly mood came over me, so I said "Actually, it does look good on her. I wonder how I would look with a silver stud in my nostril. What would you do if I decided to wear a nose stud like her?" He became quite excited, and said "Would you really do something
like that? I think you would look extremely sexy." I felt
like teasing him, so even though I really had not ever considered it, I said
"Who knows, maybe. I’m not sure if I would look better with a
stud or a ring in my nose. Maybe I’ll get my nose pierced when I
have my ear done", I said laughingly. "I might like wearing
a little tiny ring in my nose." I could see an extremely interested
look in Ken's eyes, and imagined the conversation was about to start to
focus on this when two of our friends happened by the table, and that was
the end of the conversation. Lunch ended soon thereafter, and Ken had
to go to back to work. I said to Ken It was Monday, the day my store is closed, and I had some shopping to do
at the mall. As I was driving to the mall, I began to think about our
conversation, and I began to conspire to give Ken a bit more than he had
asked for. Of course I could have simply gone to the mall and had one
ear pierced with a stud at one of those stores that use a piercing gun, as I
had suggested to Ken. However, I I then called there to find out about having my ear pierced, and learned
that they could not do it for me for another two hours. I made an
appointment, and then I thought "Maybe I’ll have my hair cut short,
so that Ken can focus on my pierced ears at dinner, instead of Kay’s".
Fortunately for me, my hairdresser was able to fit me in for a short
cut. We went quite a bit of time looking through books of sort cuts,
and I finally settled on a very short, spiky cut. When she was done, my hair
was closely cropped at the back and the sides, but the front and top were
longer, and teased into a slightly "spiky" look. I actually
liked it a lot, since it looked very much like the picture of the model in
the magazine. It was an unusual experience for me to put my earrings
back on afterward, because I had always had to hold my hair out of the way
to put them in, and once in, they were only barely visible unless I had tied
my hair up for some reason. Now, however, the silver hoops were
plainly visible, and dangled every time I moved my head. It actually
made me feel more than a little bit interesting, sexy even, to see the large
silver rings dangling from my ear lobes, and to feel the ear wires moving in
the holes pierced in my lobes. As I drove to Miami Moon, I looked in
the mirror and found myself looking forward to I arrived at the Sun and Stars piercing studio a few minutes early, and as I was waiting for my appointment, I noticed a large variety of unusual jewelry, of the sort that is made to be worn in unusual pierced places. Even though I had teased Ken about "getting into body piercing" when we were discussing about me getting my ear pierced again, I had never really thought about this sort of thing, and I was really quit surprised to see it all. At first, I thought I would just have a second hole done in only one of my ears, like I had teased Ken about. But I noticed that the woman who would be piercing my ear had several small rings through each of her lobes, and I asked her about them. She said "Oh yes, my ears are multi-pierced. Aren't they neat? It's becoming a very popular style. Some women just have one ear double pierced, like you want to do, but I would say that most women who come in these days want to have both ears double pierced. And, a lot of the women who had double piercings are now coming in to have their ears pierced again, you know, so that they will be triple-pierced". "Multi-pierced", "double-pierced", or "triple-pierced", I thought. Wouldn’t it be extremely exciting for Ken, and for me, if I showed up at lunch wearing not just one new earring in one ear, but a new one in both ears. I somehow found the idea very sexy, and then I had a very wicked thought. What if I had two new holes pierced in each ear, and showed up wearing three silver hoops in each ear! I could even hear myself saying, "Why yes, Ken, I'll be wearing three hoops in each ear from now on because both of my ears are now triple-pierced. Did you ever think you would be married to someone who is multi-pierced?" So I said to the woman "Is it possible for me to have two more holes done in each ear today, so that I have three in each ear?" "Oh yes, she said, that will be quite easy. Why don’t you go pick out the earrings you want me to put in your ears, and I’ll get started here". I saw an enormous range of gold and silver hoops, studs, and all other
kinds of earrings. I picked out two pair of simple silver rings, one
slightly smaller than the ones I was wearing, and the second ones smaller
still. I had decided that while the holes were still healing, it would
be fun to wear three small Next, the second hole was done, in the same ear, but higher up at the edge of the soft part of the lobe. Once again, the thin hollow needle was pushed through my lobe where she had marked a hole. Once again, a tiny silver ring was put into the hollow needle, pulled through the newly formed pierce, and fastened at the back. As I waited for the other ear to be done, I shook my head slightly, and felt both rings in my right ear swing ever so softly from the newly pierced hole. As the rings swung gently from my ear, I became extremely warm, and a strange and somewhat sexy feeling came over me. "I'm being pierced", I thought, "so that I can wear several silver rings in my ears". Somehow, the phrase "in my ears" not "on my ears" became a focus of my thoughts, and I noticed my attitude changing markedly, from the somewhat mild, and meek Barbara into the slightly wicked, slightly haughty, slightly sultry attitude that Erica always seemed to have. Now, I thought, I was beginning to understand why Erica had always wanted to have a second pierce in her ear, and why she tried the nose ring. Truth be told, I suspected, Erica would in fact love to wear more than two earrings in her ears, but with her husband Andrew to consider, she might just have to stop at two in one ear and one in the other. And, my guess was that for Erica, when Andrew was not around - when Erica was at her salon, or out of town at a hair show - she would often take the opportunity to wear her little nose clip. In fact, knowing Erica, I'll bet that she would love to have her nostril pierced for a ring, but could not do so without sending Andy into orbit. So much the better for me; I don't have such restrictions. In fact, my husband will probably love it when he sees me wearing three hoops in my new multi-pierced ears, and would probably faint dead away with happiness if someday I decided to pierce my nose for a ring. The woman returned to me, startling me somewhat out of my trance-like state, and completed the remaining two piercings. As before, twice in succession, a hollow needled pierced my lobe, and made it possible to place two new silver rings in my ears. Before I knew it, she had installed each of the four silver rings into the newly pierced holes. When she was done, she put my other silver earrings back into the bottom
piercings for me. I then looked into the mirror, and was pleasantly
surprised to see how nice the new earrings looked. In each ear, I was
now wearing a large-sized silver ring in the piercing at the bottom of each
lobe that I had had done many years ago. Then, about a quarter of an
inch higher up, I had a smaller silver ring in the second hole, and again, a
quarter of an inch higher still, I had another tiny silver ring that had
been slipped through the third and highest piercing. When I turned my
head even slightly, all three hoops I then thought I would treat myself to a manicure, to complete my new look. I went to the mall, to Erica's salon, and while I was happy to learn that there was an opening immediately with my friend Marcy, but I was disappointed to learn that Erica had stepped out for a while. I was so excited about having my ears pierced again, and Marcy and I had a nice conversation about my new earrings. As she was doing my manicure, I caught a glimpse of one of her nails that seemed to have a small rhinestone on it. Finally, I just had to ask her what it was. She said "Oh, it's a small nail jewel. We have a whole selection of things like this. Are you interested?". I really didn’t know what to say, but I did think it looked interesting, and it reminded me of Erica's pierced nail, and then I recalled that Erica said they were going to be doing that at her salon. So I said "Well, maybe. How does it work?" She said "Well, for small rhinestones like this, we either attach it to the nail with a special glue, or we have another style, like this one, that attaches to a hole that we make in the nail. Here, let me show you." She turned over her fingernail, and there, behind the nail, was a small piece of metal that sort of looked like the back of a pierced stud earring. So I said "so it's almost like having your fingernail pierced? I've seen that before." She said "That's exactly what we call it. See, if you do that, then there are many more styles of nail jewels that you can wear, like little small dangles, and tiny hoops, for instance. Erica always has two or three of her nails pierced now, and she always wears little tiny rings in the piercings." I was surprised, to say the least, because I could not imagine Andrew liking that very much. Just then, I heard the door in the back of the salon open and close. Out of the corner of my eye in that general direction I caught site of a thin woman of about 35 years of age, with very short black hair, wearing black Capri pants, black stiletto heeled pumps, and a sheer white silk blouse tied at her waist over a black bustier. Shades of Erica, I thought. As she walked towards a station at the back of the salon, I noticed that she was wearing an ankle bracelet around both ankles, and that she seemed to be wearing three rings in each ear, just like me. I turned my attention back to Marcy when I heard Erica's voice, coming from that direction. "Barbara, it's great to see you! It's been ages! Let me finish up here and I'll come over to talk." Erica! It was, in fact, Erica, my old "friend", but now sporting extremely short jet black hair. "What are you having done today Barbara?" Just before she turned around to grab something I could swear I saw a small shiny glint on the side of her nostril, almost like she had a silver stud in her nose. No way, I was just imagining things. Marcy was just finishing up, so, I tipped her, and thanked her for doing such a nice job on my nails. Then she spoke up for me "She's having a manicure, and wants to have a nail charm." "Great, let me do it. It will give us a chance to catch up. Barbara, if you'll just sit there for a minute, I'll be right over." As Erica walked over, I could see that she was still in great shape, and
her pants and blouse fit her like a glove. She carried herself so
well, with her head erect, that it made her seem even taller than she
actually was. From the back, when I watched her earrings dangle as she
talked with the receptionist, I "Erica, I can’t believe you are wearing all of those earrings. What does Andrew say about that?" "No problem", she said. "I have little almost invisible retainers that I wear in the holes to keep them open when I am around Andrew. He has no clue that my lobes are triple pierced. Speaking of pierced earrings, look at you! Three? In each ear? And I love your short hair. Ken must think this is great." "Well, I finally just did it, today, actually. I like this look so much. I feel so sexy with all of these rings in my ears." "I know exactly how you feel Barbara. I just love wearing
hoops in my ears." She shook he head, and all three rings moved in
unison, dangling from what looked to be well-healed holes. "Doesn't it
make you feel so primitive when you wear large hoops in your ears, like a
sort of 21st century tribal gypsy or We both looked down at her hands, and showed me her nails. She had
a tiny hoop in each of her pinky nails, and a slightly larger hoop in a hole
that was pierced through the nail on her ring finger. Then she looked at me,
finally, and she said to me "So you want to have one of your
fingernails pierced. You'll really like it. I think it's so sexy
to wear a little hoop in one of your nails. They're so dainty,
and it really draws attention to your hands. As I was looking at my
hand that she was preparing to work on, my eyes moved upward to her
face. As she worked, telling me what she was doing, I watched
her. She was a very pretty woman, with a fine complexion. As I
had noticed before, each of her ear lobes was pierced three times. She
was wearing large silver hoops in the bottom hole of each ear, and small
hoops in the upper two holes. What was quite surprising, however, was
that she was wearing a very tiny ring in the part of your ear called the
tragus – I had learned that when I had had my ears "Do you like my nose stud, Barbara?" "Why, yes, uh, yes, I do" I stammered. Actually, I did like it, at least on her. "It's pierced, you know. I had it done several months ago, a couple
of weeks after that dinner we had at your house. The conversation that
night got me to thinking about doing it, and I wore that clip-on hoop for a
couple of weeks here at work just to see what it was like. I wasn't
sure I would like it at first, Actually, I though, anything would look good on this woman. "Yes,
actually, I do. The stud looks nice, but a small hoop would
also." I was very curious, all of a sudden, and I said " Did
it hurt to have it pierced?" ("Goodness", I thought,
"wouldn’t Ken just go crazy if I tried wearing a nose stud like we
had "Oh, it hurt a little" she said, "but only for a few days." I actually got used to it quite quickly." She smiled and thanked me, and said "Actually, I had thought for a long time about what it would be like to wear a ring in my nose. That trip to Chicago where I saw that woman with the short haircut and tiny thin gold ring in her nostril made it clear to me that it could be quite fun and pretty." It did look pretty, but I was mostly fascinated by her hoop earrings, and by mine. Seeing her earrings sway when she turned her head, and feeling mine sway the same way, made me feel warm, extremely warm, and the feeling of the silver wires that passed through the holes in my lobes was too delicious to describe. Then she reached up to get something from the shelf above her. I was curious to see what a nose stud looked liked from the inside of the nose, and I peered up in that area and was very surprised to see a small bit of silver glistening on both sides of her nasal septum. "My goodness", I thought, "I think her septum is pierced too!" I was so surprised that I completely forgot about looking for the inside of her nose stud, and I let out a quiet "oh!'. She looked down, and said "I see you’ve seen my other nose ring
too. The she sat down, and leaned forward, whispering to me "My
septum is pierced also. See, I'm wearing a little piece of silver
jewelry in it called a retainer." With that, she gently pulled on one
side of the silver device and with that, the "Wow" I said. "That's interesting." "Yes, I like this one too. I had this done before my
nostril. It's a little kinkier than some of my clients can tolerate,
so I usually wear this retainer and keep it hidden. Of course, Andrew
would absolutely freak if he knew about this, and the retainer keeps him
clueless about it. Sometimes on my days off, "Oh my gosh" I said, "did he see your new earrings?" "Barbara, of course! We chatted for about 15 minutes. I have to say, he was quite intrigued by my little nose stud. I made him promise not to tell Andrew." I could feel myself getting jealous again. Just when I thought I had been making progress on Erica's hold on Ken, she shows up with as many earrings as me, even more, and a stud in her nose as well. "It's actually quite fun to wear the septum ring. It feels so sexy just dangling there, just like the feel my earrings have to my ears as they swing when my head moves. I'm going to wear it tonight when I’m out with the other girls here at my salon, for girls' night out. So when we’re done with your nail piercing, and after I close up here, I'm going to replace this retainer with a ring." I was fascinated, and I said "Can I watch?" She said "Sure, I can do it now, if you want. She looked around and said" actually, it’s so close to then end of the day that you are the last client here, so there will be no conservative clients to offend." She gently slipped the retainer from out of her septum, and then put it
on the
manicure table. I was rather surprised to see that it was slightly
thicker than
the standard earring I was used to, as if the pierce in her septum was
slightly
bigger than the ones I was used to having in my ears. Then she pulled
out She said "You can see that the thickness of my septum ring is
slightly larger
than the usual earring. It has to be that way for septum piercings.
And with that, as she leaned forward towards the mirror on her table to see what she
was
doing, she slipped the other ring through her septum, and then closed the
ring
around a small ball that was held by the spring-like tension of the
ring. When
she was done, and looked up at me, the very tiny ring dangled gently from
her
septum, and it looked absolutely fantastic. I actually envious of her,
and
wondered for a moment if I would look as pretty as she did with a small
silver
stud in my nostril, and a silver ring in my septum. She finished my nail
piercing, installing a small silver ring in my left pinky nail, and a small
silver stud in the nail of my right pinky. We had a great
conversation; I was
still so excited about my ear piercings that I just had to tell her about
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